I’ve always been someone with rocky relationships. Be it platonic friendships or romantic interests, something always seems to go wrong. Perhaps it’s just been a matter of associating myself with the wrong kind of people. I don’t think everyone in my past are horrible people. Some I’ve meshed well with for a number of years; yet, things still went south in the end. People grow apart, conflicts arise… some conflict that can’t be resolved, and that’s life for you. Some people are just meant to be passing characters in your life… there for a set number of chapters to serve a specific purpose, and afterwards, you carry on with your journey leaving them behind. In a way, I’m thankful to everyone in the past who have taught me many valuable lessons about myself and what I’m looking for in those around me. The type of friends I need in my life versus people I simply cannot tolerate due to unhealthy dynamics, as well as romance that is worth putting in the effort for.
Two years ago I met someone I clicked with instantly, though, I was already in a relationship. A failing one I might add. We tried to make it work, but in the end we acknowledged we’re much better as friends than lovers. With that arc over, I moved on to the next, revisting the one whose spark was never allowed to burst into a flame due to my previous commitment. We were honest with ourselves and what we wanted; taking it emotionally slow just to see where things would go. Over time, I found myself falling in love with him, though he was still hesitant with his feelings. That was fine, because love is patient, right? The waiting game paid off because we developed a strong relationship. We’ve had some bumps along the road, but we always seem to get back to a good place.
He treats me better than anyone ever has, and I too treat him like the King he is to me. Even though we may have disagreements, we resolve our issues with calm, rational discussions, taking into account one another’s feelings, acknowledging where we both went wrong, and noting how to improve so we don’t have a repeat scenario, or at least how to better handle it if it comes up again. He’s someone I feel in my heart I can share my life with.
I’m eternally happy that I could find someone that can:
- Make me smile through my tears
- Help me find my inner strength to battle all my demons and become genuinely happy in life
- Be loved by all my friends and family, because those are the people who have my best interest in their hearts and only want the best partner for me
- Support my dreams and help make them a reality
- Motivate and support me in my studies
- Make me feel confident in my own skin
- Provide strength and support when I feel too weak to stand on my own, because no matter how tough we are, we can always use a little help sometimes
- Motivate me to keep improving myself
- Help me grow as a person
The last point is most important to me. I’ve learned over the years, not just with my current partner, but with my true friends as well, that the people we keep in our lives should have our best interest and help us grow, as we should for them in turn.
“Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved.”
― Roy T. Bennet, The Light in the Heart