You ever have moments when you feel totally hopeless? When you sit back, pondering on life, and realise you’ve been a screw up countless times. Decisions you’ve regretted? Things you wish you could go back in time and change? Yet, regardless of knowing how idiotic those choices were, you continue to repeat the same mistakes in a vicious cycle? Yeah … I’ve been there, done that. It’s practically second nature to me.
I’m sitting here right now, full of regret. I know I can’t turn back time, and I know the only thing I can do is move on from here. Just let it go *insert Frozen song here* Ha… letting it go… I wish it were that easy for me. Ever saw the popular tweet “I don’t hold grudges. We good. You may never hear from me again, but we good.” Well that sums me up so much. I forgive, but I surely don’t forget. The moment you cross me; the moment you break my trust… I promise you, you will regret it. With a fiery personality and explosive nature, I can almost guarantee that you’d wish you did things differently.
If there’s one thing I hate more than anything, it’s liars. I don’t see the sense of it. You know that I will find out eventually, and I have a pretty good intuition so I won’t buy the BS you’re trying to sell me. Really… why lie? Just be honest with me and I swear everything will eventually be okay between us. I know in the moment I’d be all fired up. I might snap. I’d really have to try hard to not say anything I know I don’t mean. I may need a little bit of space to just breathe and get over it, but I am going to get over it. I’m a pretty forgiving person… unless you lie. I already have issues with trusting people, so being shady and manipulative is definitely going to get you cut out of my life. You literally would not even exist to me after that.
*breathes* My blood is already boiling as I type each sentence here. I’ve never felt so betrayed in my life. What’s worse than being lied to in general, is having someone you held close to heart be the one who did it. All of my friends mean the world to me. Once you fall into that category, I will be by your side no matter what, through thick and thin. We may argue, have disagreements and all the works from time to time, but despite everything, if I call you my friend, then I’d love you to death. Thus, it only makes sense that my heart is shattering right now as I’ve discovered how fabricated each thing this person has said to me was.
I’m pretty sure I’m not the only person in the world who’s been cheated by someone they considered to be a friend. I, on the other hand, have the WORST coping habits.
My initial reaction was “I need a freaking Valium!” Thing is, the last time I felt I needed a valium, I ended up popping three of them at once. Second thought to cross my mind: “Why is my house out of booze?” Recently, I told myself that I no longer want to share my body with someone unless I’m in a serious and committed relationship, because I deserve better. Now, here I am, just wanting a quick fix; feeling as though I’m falling back into those same patterns. I fought back the tears, but I could feel them forming in spite of of how hard I tried not to cry. I’m hurting. I wish I could tear my heart out and not feel anything anymore. I’m trying to be strong, but maybe I’m not.
These past few days I’ve made posts on my blog that all ended with some sort of uplifting message. What I want others who are facing a similar situation, as well as myself to know, is that we should never give up hope. When we let go of hope, what do we really have left? Yet, here I am, at the brink of giving up again. It’s astonishing how it takes just one trigger to send me on a downwards spiral. I’ve been striving to be a stronger person. I told myself that I won’t let depression get the best of me. Yet, here it is, taking full control once more.
I have my valium. One pill is enough to calm my nerves and make me a little bit drowsy. Two would surely knock me out, and I’d wake up not remembering a thing that happened today. Three would guarantee that. Quick fix #1. Then of course, there’s the male from my past who resurfaced this week looking for nothing but just fun. Quick fix #2. But is this really going to “fix” things? Do I honestly think that a couple of pills and meaningless sex would make me feel better? Oh gosh… what honestly goes through my mind sometimes?
In times like this, I feel like throwing all my progress out of the window. I want to lock myself in my room, high off of valium, and just stay in bed forever. I feel like there’s no helping me. It is as though I can never truly be fixed. The thing is, I’m a person… not some item that needs repairing. It’s not as though you can take me to get serviced and everything will be fine afterwards. It is a process. I have to take this one step at a time before I reach to where I need to be; before I can find my inner peace. Emotions can sometimes be a challenge for the average person to keep in order, but when you’re a borderline person, you know that it is a never-ending struggle. It doesn’t mean that it is impossible to walk out of this triumphant. Right now, I feel as though all hope is lost. I know that I’m just caught up in a whirlwind of emotions that I can’t fully understand yet, but the reality of things is that all hope isn’t lost yet. I can fight off these negative emotions. I can learn to develop self-control. Having BPD does not mean that you’re a weak person. In fact, it just goes to show how strong we are. We are strong for having not given up yet. For still being able to face each day even though we’re scared. It’s not a losing battle, and knowing that we put up a fight every single day, trying to overcome our demons, just shows that we do stand in chance in this world, and we should not give up. I’m feeling down, but it will pass. I will ride this wave, and when it’s over, I will be better prepared for future challenges like this one.
“When I counted up my demons, saw there was one for every day. With the good ones on my shoulder, I drove the other ones away. If you ever feel neglected; if you think that all is lost, I’ll be counting up my demons, yeah, hoping everything’s not lost.
When you thought that it was over, you could feel it all around. Everybody’s out to get you; don’t let it drag you down. Cuz if you ever feel neglected; if you think that all is lost, I’ll be counting up my demons, yeah, hoping everything’s not lost.”
– Coldplay, Everything’s not lost.